Kya Success Stories Dekhne Se Sach Mein Success Milti Hai?
Hum success stories ki website chalate hain, toh tum expect karoge ki hum haan kahenge. Sach yeh hai ki kabhi-kabhi haan, aur yeh kaafi had tak is par depend karta hai ki story kaunsi hai aur uske baad tum kya karte ho.
Video dekhkar aaj tak kisi ko job nahi mili. Milti toh ajeeb hota. Par stories yeh badal sakti hain ki tumhare jaise insaan ke liye kya possible lagta hai, aur iski ahmiyat sunne se zyada hai.
Kisi aur ko karte dekhna kyun help karta hai
Psychologist Albert Bandura ne saalon tak self-efficacy par kaam kiya, yaani yeh yakeen ki tum koi khaas kaam kar sakte ho. Is yakeen ka ek source unhone bahut simple bataya: apne jaise kisi insaan ko woh kaam karte dekhna.
Socho iska matlab kya hai agar tumhari family mein kisi ne business nahi kiya, civil services ka exam nahi diya, ya akele bade sheher nahi gaya. Kami sirf paise ya contacts ki nahi hai. Kami proof ki hai. Jab pata chalta hai ki Divya Tanwar ne government school mein padhai ki, jabki unki maa kheton mein kaam karti thi aur raat ko kapde silti thi, toh woh asar hota hai jo koi motivational quote nahi kar sakta. Yeh saboot hai.
Kab stories se aur bura lagta hai
Yahan ek bada catch hai. Penelope Lockwood aur Ziva Kunda ke 1997 ke paper "Superstars and Me" ke mutabik koi behtareen role model tumhe inspire bhi kar sakta hai, aur tumhe apne baare mein bura feel bhi kara sakta hai. Farak kaafi had tak is baat se aata tha ki us insaan ki success tumhe apni pahunch mein aur apne kaam ki lagti hai ya nahi.
Toh first year ka student apne hi course ke star graduate ke baare mein padhkar josh mein aa sakta hai. Final year ka student, jiske paas time nikal chuka hai, wahi story padhkar aur down ho sakta hai.
Shayad tumne bhi yeh mehsoos kiya ho. Kuch "22 ki umar mein maine kaise kiya" videos dekhkar phone phenkne ka mann karta hai. Yeh tumhari negativity nahi hai. Bas us story mein tumhare kaam ka kuch nahi hai.
Woh baat jo koi nahi karna chahta
Phir aata hai survivorship bias. Hum sirf unhi ki sunte hain jinke liye cheezein chal gayi. Har us chai stall ke peeche jo national chain bana, bahut se stall chhote hi rahe ya band ho gaye, aur un par koi Short nahi banata. Luck, timing aur family ka support zyadatar success stories ke maanne se bada role nibhate hain.
Agar yeh soch kar dekhoge ki "jo unhone kiya wahi karo aur wahi milega", toh nirasha hogi, aur shayad kuch galat faisle bhi. Please 40 second ke video ki wajah se job mat chhodna. Hamare video ki wajah se bhi nahi.
Kaise dekhein ki fayda ho
Kuch aadatein farak daalti hain.
Aise log chuno jinki shuruaat tumhare jaisi ho. Silicon Valley founder ki morning routine shayad tumhare kisi kaam ki nahi. Tumhare jaise sheher aur family budget se aaya koi kahin zyada kaam ka hai, kyunki agla kadam tum soch sakte ho.
Boring beech wale hisse par dhyan do. Ending sabse kam kaam ki hoti hai. Mirabai Chanu ka Tokyo mein silver jeetna khoobsurat hai, par seekhne wali cheez Rio ke "Did Not Finish" ke baad ke saal hain. Vineeta Singh ke do startups Sugar se pehle fail hue. Woh saal asal mein kaise rahe honge?
Ek chhota kadam dhoondho. Deepinder Goyal ki shuruaat Zomato banane ke plan se nahi hui. Pehla kadam menu scan karna tha, kyunki office mein log menu padhne ke liye line lagate the. Company copy nahi hoti, par "aas-paas logon ko kya pareshan kar raha hai, yeh dekho" copy ho sakta hai.
Phir app band karo aur kuch karo. Yahi tay karta hai ki time ka koi fayda hua ya nahi. Inspired feel karna accha lagta hai, aur agar wahi feeling reward ban jaye toh yeh ek trap hai. Teen stories dekhi hain toh aaj raat ek chhota kaam kar lo. Woh message bhej do ya woh form bhar do.
Toh kya yeh kaam karta hai?
Story tumhara kaam nahi karegi. Par kaam ko possible feel kara sakti hai, aur kharab hafte mein shayad wahi tumhe chalta rakhe. Hamare hisaab se yeh kisi ke bhi 40 second ke layak hai, bas poori shaam ispar mat nikalna.
Try karna ho toh stories dekho aur kisi aise insaan ko dhoondho jiski shuruaat tumhari abhi ki jagah ke kareeb ho.